Love and Hurt

Most of us dreams of happy endings. A fairy tale love story wherein the main characters live happily ever after. That is what those fairytale stories instill in our mind when we were kids.

I remember when I was a kid, I would always dream of having my own prince charming, a cute daughter and a happy family. I am addicted to fairytale stories, I am a sucker in happy endings. But growing up, I realized, life isn’t a fairytale, so as in love. Love in reality isn’t close to what I used to imagine reading my favorite fairytales.

As I mature, I realized that when loving someone, you will always get hurt. No matter how hard we try to avoid hurting the ones we love. Sometimes we hurt them without noticing it. The more we try to avoid them, the more we end up hurting them. I always believe in trying to keep things to myself which might hurt the relationship. And i was then successful not telling them what i feel. But right now, I realized, I should learn to speak up, tell them how I feel. Be it good or bad, I need to be transparent.

I remember the song of Tiffany, it says there It’s the lover not the love who broke your heart last night. It’s the lover not the dream that didn’t work out right. If you listen to your heart, ooh you’ll know it’s true
It’s the lover not the love who deserted you”

Well in loving someone, if we lose them, it is not love who left us or didn’t work out, it is indeed our partner who deserted us. Sometimes we cry so hard, we became so depressed that we forget that there is still tomorrow to hope for. If they leave us, it not us who lost something, we should always remember that it is their loss. If they leave us, we should not let it get into us too much. Crying is normal, but the following that, we should remember that we need to move on and face the fact that they are no longer with us. Leaving doesn’t make us less a person but rather just make us a better person after learning something from not so good experience. One thing I have learned in life, is that wisdom doesn’t always have to be sugar coated but sometimes it came like a bitter pill. Something we cannot swallow. But this bitter pills are way better that those sugar coated medicines we take to ease the pain we feel.

People leave us because in the first place, they were never meant to be with us. Like in those movies, their role has ended already. But we should not regret having them as a part in our life. They made us who we are. Thank God for He let us meet them to mold us into a better person.

Grandfather’s letter


One day, a young man was cleaning out his late grandfather’s belongings when he came across a bright red envelope. Written on the front were the words, “To my grandson.” Recognizing his grandfather’s handwriting, the boy opened the envelope. A letter inside read:

Dear Ronny,

Years ago you came to me for help. You said, “Grandpa, how is it that you’ve accomplished so much in your life? You’re still full of energy, and I’m already tired of struggling. How can I get that same enthusiasm that you’ve got?”

I didn’t know what to say to you then. But knowing my days are numbered, I figure that I owe you an answer. So here is what I believe.

I think a lot of it has to do with how a person looks at things. I call it ‘keeping your eyes wide open.’

First, realize that life is filled with surprises, but many are good ones. If you don’t keep watching for them, you’ll miss half the excitement. Expect to be thrilled once in a while, and you will be.

When you meet up with challenges, welcome them. They’ll leave you wiser, stronger, and more capable than you were the day before. When you make a mistake, be grateful for the things it taught you. Resolve to use that lesson to help you reach your goals.

And always follow the rules. Even the little ones. When you follow the rules, life works. If you think you ever really get by with breaking the rules, you’re only fooling yourself.

It’s also important to decide exactly what you want. Then keep your mind focused on it, and be prepared to receive it.

But be ready to end up in some new places too. As you grow with the years, you’ll be given bigger shoes to fill. So be ready for endings as well as challenging beginnings.

Sometimes we have to be brave enough to move from the familiar to the unfamiliar. Life isn’t just reaching peaks. Part of it is moving from one peak to the next. If you rest too long in between, you might be tempted to quit. Leave the past in the past. Climb the next mountain and enjoy the view.

Dump things that weigh you down emotionally and spiritually. When an old resentment, belief, or attitude becomes heavy, lighten your load. Shed those hurtful attitudes that slow you down and drain your energy.

Remember that your choices will create your successes and your failures. So consider all the pathways ahead, and decide which ones to follow. Then believe in yourself, get up, and get going.

And be sure to take breaks once in a while. They’ll give you a renewed commitment to your dreams and a cheerful, healthy perception of the things that matter the most to you.

Most important of all, never give up on yourself. The person that ends up a winner is the one who resolves to win. Give life everything you’ve got, and life will give its best back to you.

Love always,
Grandpa

by Steve Brunkhorst

Flower in the desert

This happened many many summers ago.

There was a young flower in the desert where all was dry and sad looking…It was growing by itself…enjoying every day…and saying to the sun “When shall I be grown up”? And the sun would say “Be patient”—Each time I touch you,you grow a little”…And she was so pleased.Because she would have a chance to bring beauty to this corner of sand…And this is all she wanted to do—bring a little bit of beauty to this world.

One day the hunter came by—and stepped on her.—She was going to die—and she felt so sad.Not because she was dying —but because she would not have a chance to bring a little bit of beauty to this corner of the desert.

The great spirit saw her, and was listening.—Indeed,he said …She should be living…And he reached down and touched her—and gave her life.

And she grew up to be a beautiful flower…and this corner of the desert became so beautiful because of her.

THE LAST LECTURE – Randy Pausch

FULL LAST LECTURE

Randy Pausch is a married father of three, a very popular professor at Carnegie Mellon University—and he is dying. He is suffering from pancreatic cancer, which he says has returned after surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. Doctors say he has only a few months to live.

In September 2007, Randy gave a final lecture to his students at Carnegie Mellon that has since been downloaded more than a million times on the Internet. “There’s an academic tradition called the ‘Last Lecture.’ Hypothetically, if you knew you were going to die and you had one last lecture, what would you say to your students?” Randy says. “Well, for me, there’s an elephant in the room. And the elephant in the room, for me, it wasn’t hypothetical.”

Watch Randy’s famous “Last Lecture.”

Despite the lecture’s wide popularity, Randy says he really only intended his words for his three small children. “I think it’s great that so many people have benefited from this lecture, but the truth of the matter is that I didn’t really even give it to the 400 people at Carnegie Mellon who came. I only wrote this lecture for three people, and when they’re older, they’ll watch it,” he says.

Perfect Love

It’s been a long time since I last wrote about personal happenings in my life. I have been racking my brains out to find an inspiration on what to write. Of course I am tired of writing heartaches, pains and sadness in my blog ALTHOUGH, I know I am good at it. Maybe it has something to do with my past experiences. Gosh, am I making it sound like nothing happened to me except sadness. Lemme re-phrase that, With all the “challenging” experiences I have gone through, I think it is about time I write something about on something about my angel.

In my last blog, I wrote something about an angel who came to me unexpectedly. A friend that always supports me and love me despite my flaws. All this time, I thought it was platonic love.. Yeah because he isn’t scared to share all his dirtiest secret to me, which makes us more closer. See, he never thought all this time, it was perfectly fine with me. Nobody is perfect that what I said. And now he is here, offering me a perfect love. Well I know some of you will disagree but each one of us has their own definition of what is a perfect love. For me what he is trying to give me is a perfect one.

I saw this poster, and for me it is a perfect definition of love. He isn’t afraid of accepting my dark past and that is perfect love. He show me how to still love another person with everything he have and can without thinking of himself, unselfish love that is.

He taught me to let go of the pain, sadness and heartaches. He taught me to believe in myself despite all those things, and yes he is right, it made me who I am now. Without those experiences, I won’t be a strong person. He promised me to teach more to become a stronger one. Which I think he will fulfill in time.

But right now, what matters is having him around. Supporting and loving me all the way. Knowing that I have that person, I know I will be alright.

Don’t dream its over

There is freedom within
There is freedom without
Try to catch the deluge in a paper cup
There’s a battle ahead
Many battles are lost
But you’ll never reach the end of the road
While you’re traveling with me

CHORUS:
Hey now, hey now
Don’t dream it’s over
Hey now, hey now
When the world comes in
They come, they come
To build a wall between us
We know they won’t win

Now I’m towing my car
There’s a hole in the roof
My possessions are causing me suspicion but there’s no proof
In the paper today
Tales of war and of waste
But you turn right over to the TV page

CHORUS

Now I’m walking again
To the beat of a drum
And I’m counting the steps to the door of your heart
Only shadows ahead
Barely clearing the roof
Get to know the feeling of liberation and relief

CHORUS

REPEAT UNTIL FADE:
Hey now, hey now
Don’t dream it’s over
Hey now, hey now
When the world comes in

Facts of life

* When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us.
* Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
* Always put yourself in others’ shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.
* The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
* Happiness lives for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
* The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
* When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.
* What’s meant to be will always find a way and if ever you’ve found that way, do something to make it happen, never let go ’cause not all that’s meant to be will always turn into reality.
* If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.
* Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
* Life holds no promises to what will come our way. It makes no guarantee as to what we will have. It just gives us time to make choices and take chances.
* Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.
* Somewhere there is someone that dreams of your smile, and finds in your presence that life is worthwhile, so when you are lonely remember it’s true, someone somewhere is thinking of you.
* Life is short, don’t waste time worrying about what people think of you. Hold on to the ones that care, in the end they will be the only ones there.
* We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.
* Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
* Remember: Whatever happens, happens for a reason.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is letting go of the pain
And accepting what has happened,
Because it will not change.
Forgiveness is dismissing the blame.
Choices were made that caused the hurt;
We each could have chosen differently,
But we didn’t.
Forgiveness is looking at the pain,
Learning the lessons it has produced,
And understanding what we have learned.
Forgiveness allows us to move on
Towards a better understanding
Of universal love and our true purpose.
Forgiveness is knowing that love
Is the answer to all questions,
And that we all are in some way connected.
Forgiveness is starting over,
With the knowledge that we have gained.
I forgive you, and I forgive myself.
I hope you can do the same.

I need a friend

Prayers of the Stress Impaired

  • Lord help me to relax about insignificant details beginning tomorrow at 7:41:23 am e.s.t.
  • God, help me to consider people’s feelings, even if most of them ARE hypersensitive.
  • God, help me to take responsibility for my own actions, even though they’re usually NOT my fault.
  • God, help me to not try to RUN everything. But, if You need some help, please feel free to ASK me!
  • Lord, help me to be more laid back and help me to do it EXACTLY right.
  • God help me to take things more seriously, especially laughter, parties, and dancing.
  • God give me patience, and I mean right NOW!
  • Lord help me not be a perfectionist. (Did I spell that correctly?)
  • God, help me to finish everything I sta
  • God, help me to keep my mind on one th-Look a bird-ing at a time.
  • God, help me to do only what I can, and trust you for the rest. And would you mind putting that in writing?
  • Lord, keep me open to others’ ideas, WRONG though they may be.
  • Lord, help me be less independent, but let me do it my way.
  • Lord, help me follow established procedures today. On second thought, I’ll settle for a few minutes.
  • Lord, help me slow down andnotrushthroughwhatIdo. Amen