May 13, 2008
Loving and losing
Posted by equilibrium2008 under Inspirational, Life, Love, Personal | Tags: heartbreak, hurt, Life, Love, pains |To love and to lose is one of the biggest tragedies in life, yet one fails to see the blessing in the loss. We lose for many reasons - a death, a divorce, a broken friendship and the end of a relationship. In that moment, we feel our life has come to an end. How are we to go on? A piece of your soul is taken leaving an empty hole in your heart.

The question of “why me” repeats in your mind but as the beauty of time progresses, we see the answer. Loss makes us stronger and wiser. A loss helps us to appreciate even the smallest, insignificant things in life. Our hearts become softer and full of even more love than we had to begin with. A loss helps us to see that we can’t do it alone, that we need faith and hope to get us through. We learn the mercy and grace of God.
When the grieving and the healing have taken their course, we are renewed, ready to begin a new chapter in our lives with a whole new outlook and attitude. Only then are we able to appreciate the lesson learned through that loss. One never forgets those we lost, but we do learn to let go.
We learn to keep living even though we don’t want to. We learn to treasure each moment and each person. In turn, losses make our lives a lot richer.
To love and lose is a tragedy, but it’s not the end of our lives. It’s part of our journey.
May 13, 2008 at 5:08 am
Definitely not the end of our lives, most definitely not. Life begins now, wherever we are!
May 13, 2008 at 6:45 am
Yes, ending could also means beginning..
May 13, 2008 at 9:30 am
I think losing someone has got to be the most painful thing that can ever happen to one’s heart.
And it takes such a long time before it doesn’t hurt anymore. I mean, you learn to laugh and smile again, but when some of the memories come back at certain times, you just can’t help but feel the hurt all over again.
I’m glad to say that I’ve never lost the love of my life, and I don’t plan to.
But I’ve lost a fair number of people that I’ve held close at heart. And I changed everytime.
You’re right, it’s all part of the journey.
**ps:Kenny’s comment reminds me of Bon Jovi’s “Welcome to wherever you are”. The song has absolutely beautiful lyrics.
May 13, 2008 at 11:01 am
hmm I think I haven’t heard that song but I will definitely look for that one. Yeah sometimes, we just have to mourn for a while which I think is normal to everyone when they lose someone they love. But we also have to remember that we should also be glad that they become a part of us and made who we are right now.
Currently, I am in a very confusing relationship. The guys I have been seeing says that we cannot be more than what we have now. We are just like ’special’ friend. The reason is because I am not pure chinese. But of course. like you, I don’t intend to give up..
May 14, 2008 at 12:16 am
su: Not heard of that Bon Jovi’s song before. Will try and find it. Curious is me.
equilibrium2008: Not giving up? That’s the spirit! It’s amazing what perseverance can do. Have you read “Love in Time of Cholera” by Gabriel Garcia Marquez? Now that’s some waiting…
May 14, 2008 at 12:21 am
Kenny - I saw it from a bookstore here but I wasn’t able to read it. Is it good? I like to read stories that would inspire me hehe
May 14, 2008 at 12:32 am
I’m not sure if it’d inspire you, it did infuriate me a lot in the beginning and the middle, with the love thwarted and unfulfilled and all the detours… but in the end, it was worth it even if it wasn’t satisfactory, it was real.
May 14, 2008 at 1:36 am
hmm, but I think the fact you finished the book, I guess it is worth reading.
Well, we cannot always have satisfactory ending. It just so happen that’s the reality of life. Be it ugly or not, it’s the fact everybody must have to go through aight?