April 2008


I am glad my mom is from this province. While everyone is going gaga booking for hotels here during Holy week, I just smiled and just book my flight going to Caticlan since our family have a place to stay here anytime of the year. Below are some of my fave spots in Bora:

The sand castle

Station 2 Beach view

Boracay Regency, one of the well-known area in Station 2

Boracay’s Nightlife

D’Mall at Station 2

A girl quickly punches a number into her phone and waits until she hears the other line pick up.

“Becky, I don’t know what to do, I really don’t. I love him so much and I don’t think he thinks of me that way. I mean, whenever I see him or think of him, I can’t help it, this smile comes across my face. Sometimes he sees me smiling and smiles back. That’s when my knees turn to jello and I get butterflies in my stomach. I know you think that he’s so totally adorable and cute, but if you look past that and actually listen to what he has to say, you find a totally different person. He’s so caring and considerate and he makes me feel like I don’t deserve him. Well, actually, I don’t deserve him. He’s too perfect, I mean, look at all the girls that fall for him. I could never be one of those. They’re all so pretty and bubbly and….. not me. I couldn’t even start to compare myself to them. But whenever I think of him or see him, I can’t help it, I smile. Now I didn’t tell you this but he called me the other day about homework. I tell you now, I made a complete fool of myself. I’m so embarrassed. I stuttered the whole time, but he was so sweet and just kept talking and making me feel better. He’s so perfect Becky, I don’t deserve him, so why do I keep wishing and praying that he will notice me, why?…………Becky? Becky are you there?”

“This isn’t Becky.”

Petrified the girl asks, “Then who is this?”

“This is the guy who’s smile turns your knees to jello and I just wanted to say one thing. Everything you just said now, I’ve been wanting to say since the day I met you.”

  • Lord help me to relax about insignificant details beginning tomorrow at 7:41:23 am e.s.t.
  • God, help me to consider people’s feelings, even if most of them ARE hypersensitive.
  • God, help me to take responsibility for my own actions, even though they’re usually NOT my fault.
  • God, help me to not try to RUN everything. But, if You need some help, please feel free to ASK me!
  • Lord, help me to be more laid back and help me to do it EXACTLY right.
  • God help me to take things more seriously, especially laughter, parties, and dancing.
  • God give me patience, and I mean right NOW!
  • Lord help me not be a perfectionist. (Did I spell that correctly?)
  • God, help me to finish everything I sta
  • God, help me to keep my mind on one th-Look a bird-ing at a time.
  • God, help me to do only what I can, and trust you for the rest. And would you mind putting that in writing?
  • Lord, keep me open to others’ ideas, WRONG though they may be.
  • Lord, help me be less independent, but let me do it my way.
  • Lord, help me follow established procedures today. On second thought, I’ll settle for a few minutes.
  • Lord, help me slow down andnotrushthroughwhatIdo. Amen

Oh well, I’ve been in this Summer capital of the Philippines and I must admit, this place reminds me of someone who is very special to me… The place itself is very romantic and you cannot help it but feel romantic too.. Even if you’re not .. So below are the pictures when we went there…

Our room in Hotel Elizabeth

Our room at Hotel Elizabeth

Bliss Cafe

Bliss Cafe

Camp John Hay

Camp John Hay

Botanical Garden

Botanical Garden

Did you go through a break-up that left you with a big challenge of moving on? Dwelling on any break-up is not emotionally healthy and keeps you from re-discovering your needs and wants from a relationship. The following tips will help you move on from your break-up and guide you into finding love again.

Accept the Reality. Accept the fact that the relationship is over. Do not give yourself unrealistic fantasies that you might get back together one day. Respect the fact that the relationship had its time, but has now ran out of ways to work. This was a chapter in your life that has now closed and you are now ready to grow and enter another chapter of your life.

Learn from It. Everything is a learning experience, so use it to your advantage! Look over your relationship and list what went good about it and what went wrong. Use these notes as a tool to improve your relationships skills.

Never Generalize. Going through a break up does cause you emotional withdrawal and pain, which may cause you to generalize everyone you meet or choose to date. Keep in mind that everyone is an individual with their own unique qualities and personalities and your encounters with them will not carry the same experiences as your ex-relationship.

Focus on You. Take some time to get to know yourself again before you get involved with someone else. Know what you really need and deserve and what you are ready to give another person. When you are sure about what you are willing to give and to receive, you will be able to find a partner who will suit you well.

There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The Bible said that,

“They went out from us, but they were never really part of us. If they had been, they would have stayed with us. But by leaving they made it clear that none of them were part of us.” [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead.

You’ve got to know when it’s dead. You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He’ll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!

by: T. D. Jakes

I have noticed that nowadays, people are really into this technology world. People are engaging themselves in cyberworld. But a lot of people cannot distinguish the dangers that also lies within.

Having an e-life gives you an opportunity to live in the world you imagine. It allows you to build the world where in you are the star of your own film. In e-life, it allows you to create the persona that you always want to be in real life. However, some people cannot draw the line between their e-life and reality. A lot of people nowadays are hooked in internet. But don’t you think we are all ‘overly’ connected?

I have noticed, people are really uber dependent on their gadgets. For a simple reminder of an important occasion, people are depending on the reminder from their palmtop or their blackberries. But what will happen if these things aren’t working, if they run out of battery? What will you do?

And I noticed, our brain are not given enough exercise now. Why? Because, anything that we need to ask, is just one ‘google’ away. Thus makes our brain lazy to think…

In your e-life, you meet cyberfriends. These people whom you chat, exchange ideas but you haven’t seen them yet. A lot of people are addicted to these and sometimes even lead to cyber relationships. I just realized that cyber also can be a major problem and can be a tool for infidelity. In the recent survey, 40% of the employee spent their time doing cyber flirting. See, in this world, a married or committed person can easily disguise to be single and unattached. And one thing lead to another, from being cyber friends then into cyber confidante and then cyber couples.

In cyberworld, we should always remember the word ‘anonymity’. Meaning, we should know where to draw the line. We need to know when to stop and until where we can divulge about our real identity. Some people behind those monitors are expecting them to say the real identity of the person they are talking but we need to remember we are entitled to create our own identity right? Regardless if the people would tell you that she is Hilary Duff or he is Tom Cruise, it is their right. Cyberworld is intended for other people to create the world they have always wanted but cannot have in real life.

A friend of mine once had an issue on this one. She was not scared of telling those people from behind those monitors all ‘true’ information about herself. It was perfectly doing well for the first time. A lot of people became interested in meeting her. But of course with her credentials, who wouldn’t be. Until one day, some assholes just did something to her and it changed her. Too bad, her pictures where posted everywhere in the web and made nasty comments about her. But its too late for her. She learned her lesson in the hard way. We must remember that not all people that are good to you are also true to you. We need to know how to weigh things and limit our conversations to these strangers.

One advice, lets not have our e-life affect our real life. Whatever happens in this cyberworld does not necessaril reflects you in real life. Draw the line between reality and your e-life as much as possible and keep real identity information about yourself.

Reality versus Imaginary. Reality is how to live daily and imaginary is the persona you create in the cyberworld. Don’t let yourself be drowned with the attention you get from those cyberpeople. Remember what is important is the people you interact with in flesh.

Every company faces the problem of people leaving the company for better pay or profile.

Early this year, Arun, a senior software designer, got an offer from a prestigious international firm to work in its India operations developing specialized software. He was thrilled by the offer.

He had heard a lot about the CEO. The salary was great. The company had all the right systems in place employee-friendly human resources (HR) policies, a spanking new office, and the very best technology, even a
canteen that served superb food.

Twice Arun was sent abroad for training. “My learning curve is the sharpest it’s ever been,” he said soon after he joined.

Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Arun walked out of the job.

Why did this talented employee leave?

Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away.

The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called “First Break All The Rules”.
It came up with this surprising finding:

If you’re losing good people, look to their immediate boss. Immediate boss is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization. And he ’s the reason why people leave. When people leave they take knowledge, experience and contacts with them - straight to the competition.

“People leave managers not companies,” write the authors Marcus of Buckingham and Curt Coffman.

Mostly manager drives people away?

HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave, but a thought has been planted. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third time, he looks for another job.

When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and no more. By omitting to give the boss crucial information. Dev says: “If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble. You don’t have your heart and soul in the job.”

Different managers can stress out employees in different ways - by being too controlling, too suspicious, too pushy, too critical, but they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit - often over a trivial issue.

Talented men leave. Dead wood doesn’t.

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After reading the material I have received, well it is indeed true. People leave not because they hate their job but mainly because they have something against their boss. If you know you are capable of finding new job because you have the talent, people tend to move on. But those dead woods will just cling to the company.

Now it made sense why some people in our company leaves. And it made me understand more now, that whenever I feel bored, it usually made me think of quitting my job. But a while ago, when we had lunch, we passed by a Job Fair. I can’t believe that more than hundreds of youngster, newly graduates or those people who are just looking for greener pasture are lined up and waiting for their turn. But of course I realized that I am still lucky. I am with a very good company, have a good boss and my learning is upgraded always.

But sometimes, people leave their work because of pride too. Even they don’t have a fall back after leaving the company, they still leave the company because of pride. I just simply don’t understand why would they leave just like that. Nowadays, finding a new job is very tough. Every year, there are new graduates with fresh idea to compete with you. So once you got a job, love it and don’t just settle that you know this certain field. Strive further to learn new things and improve yourself.

I am still lucky though and I am very thankful of that.

There’ll be no strings to bind your hands

Not if my love can find your heart

And there’s no need to take a stand

For it was I who choose to start

I see no need to take me home

I’m old enough to face the dawn

Just call me angel of the morning, angel

Just touch my cheek before you leave me

Oh my baby

Just call me angel of the morning, angel

Then slowly turn away from me

Maybe the sunlight will be dim

But it won’t matter anyhow

If morning’s echoes say we’ve sinned

Then it was what I wanted now

And if we’re victims of the night

I won’t be blinded by the light

Oh my baby

Just call me angel of the morning, angel

Just touch my cheek before you leave me, baby

Just call me angel of the morning

Then slowly turn away from me

Baby baby baby

Just call me angel of the morning, angel

Just touch my cheek before you leave me

Oh my baby

Just call me angel of the morning, angel

Just touch my cheek before you leave me, baby

Just call me angel of the morning, angel

Just touch my cheek before you leave me

Oh my baby

Just call me angel of the morning, angel

Angel of the morning

Sweetness causes sickness, while bitterness comes with a cure. Praise is sweetness, an excess of which causes sickness; while criticism is like a bitter pill which cures. We must have the courage to face and welcome criticism and not be afraid of it.

I remember these two quotes regarding about criticism:

The ugliness we see in others… Is a reflection of our own nature.”

Pride is tasteless, colorless and sizeless. Yet it is one of the hardest thing in life to swallow without getting into compromise..

A man’s life, circumstances and world are reflections of his own thoughts and beliefs. All men are mirrors of themselves, reflecting their own natures including their pains and ills.

Sometimes, people tend to feel depressed whenever they face criticisms. Some of them, they tend to just let their insecurities eat them like decomposing corpse. They never had a chance to get up and improve themselves.

One thing I have learned is that, criticism should always be taken as reminder to us to improve. That doesn’t mean we have to be secured what we are right now. There is always room for improvement as the saying goes. Everyday, we need to improve ourselves. But we should remember that criticisms should not put us down. It should motivate us more to improve and prove ourselves.

So whenever you face criticisms, dont feel bad. But instead, tell yourself “I will improve myself further.” And then smile and remember don’t be harsh to yourself either. Remember, “nobody’s perfect”

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